Cover of love

I had for many a day read the scripture that reads, "love covers a multitude of sins" but the impact and truth of these words had not occurred to me until recently. I will tell you the story.
Having had a friend for close to a year who I looked up to especially on entrepreneurial  terms, I was once required to give an evaluation of him. I was very positive in my report, giving my honest opinion as at that time, despite his unpopularity with the rest of the team. They thought he was boring. I didn't. About a fortnight later, I needed something from the said friend as a matter of urgency.... something within his ability. He very rudely turned me down, saying something to the effect that I did not deserve the assistance. I was shocked by his words, staring in disbelief hoping someone would wake me up. It was one rude awakening. I walked away thinking I would never stand his sight again.
The next time I was to interact with him, I couldn't help but notice how boring he was. Come to think of it, he always talked a bit too much, right? How could I not have seen? I didn't seem to mind earlier, but after my change of heart, I could barely stand him.
He had not changed. My heart had. The cover of love had been lifted off my eyes. That which covers a multitude of sin and weaknesses.
(Proverbs 10:12) Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all sins- in some versions, weaknesses.
Have you ever been in a relationship, and just when it goes sour you look at the person and wonder what you had seen in them?
Have you ever had interest in a lady and just when she rejects you, you notice that her teeth are crooked?
Have you ever disagreed with your friend then suddenly noticed that her jokes are actually not funny, or her accent is weird?
I am sure you have heard of people who suddenly say that their spouse, or fiance is  not who they thought they were, and the thing they say is actually not a new trait in the accused...
I cannot for one second try to rule out the fact that people change, but many times, the love faded away, probably after a disappointment or fight with the person, or having your attention drift to another interest, at the expense of the first.
They said love is blind, then beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.
Love does not see flaw... It understands that flaws are there, they just don't appear in its line of vision. If the beholder has love, the thing is beautiful. If the beholder lacks love, the thing is not beautiful.
You view things from your perspective. From the veil over your eyes. If your eyes are covered with love, you see beauty. If they are veiled with hatred, you see ugliness...
The flaws had been there before, except love had covered them.
When you start focusing on the flaws and weaknesses of another, you can barely stand them...
Conflict is an inevitable part of any relationship where two individuals are real to each other... Parent-child, brother-sister, friends, spouses, etc. When they do arise, view each other with love and fight the issue, not each other. Hate the problem, not each other.
Let love cover the multitude of weaknesses your neighbor has. Let love cover the fact that she sings off-key. Let it cover your spouse's weaknesses, and they are many. This is not to say that you should be silent when someone does wrong, but could you please fight the ill and not the person? Can you correct them lovingly?
Pretending is very different from loving. Taking an example of a man whose wife always make saltless food that he doesn't like, he has two options: Pretend that he doesn't mind when really he does, and he will slowly develop a distaste for her cooking, and y'all know the repercussions of this... or he can lovingly correct her and ask for more salt in her cooking, as he commends her for the job that far.
Pretending always grows tired and it will boil over in a moment of pressure, while the loving correction will yield the desired fruit, with no negative effect.
I know... I know... There are those veeeery "unlovable" people. You know that type that is always up in your business sourcing for something to gossip about over all social media, the type that doesn't seem to understand that mobile phones are not public booths ( they don't seem to understand the meaning of 'private' and 'personal'), that neighbor who just won't stop telling everyone who cares to listen how lately you seem to be barely living, that your house rarely smells of food, and that girl who just won't stop sneering at you... I know those are there, I have met my share of them. But what would  Jesus say to you?
(Matthew 5:43-48) "You have heard that it was said, 'You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.' But I say to you, love your enemies , bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven; for He makes His sun rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the just and the unjust. For if you love those who love you, what reward have you? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? And if you greet your brethren only, what do you do more than others? Do not even the tax collectors do so? Therefore you shall be perfect as your Father in heaven is perfect."

Yes, we should love even them whom we think don't deserve it. That is what Jesus did for you and I!
Decide to live a life of selfless love. Even when you stand to gain nothing, just love anyway. If God chose to love only those who deserved it, and hate those who deserved it, what side of the divide would you be on?
(John 13:35) "By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another."
Be true to God and to yourself and ask Him to  fill your heart with love. If you particularly find it hard to love a specific person, tell it to the Lord and ask that He give you a heart like His, to love even them who don't deserve it.
Speak life and speak love.